Emotional boundaries help us heal from toxic relationships and trauma. They also guide us into healthy relationships. Finally, emotional boundaries protect us from harm. When setting emotional boundaries, especially boundaries intended to aid in recovery, it’s important to remember that boundaries are not permanent. If you are leaving an abusive relationship, you will most likely need to completely sever contact with the abuser. This doesn’t mean you will never reconnect.
Some of my emotional boundaries:
- I do not read scary books or watch scary movies; my imagination is so intense that any intake of frightening material can raise my anxiety levels too much
- I do not rescue my husband from consequences of his actions: he’s an adult and we both prefer that I treat him as such
- I try to always attribute good motives to others, which prevents me from taking offense unnecessarily