Advice on Your Life

“Be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” Nora Ephron

Many of you are familiar with the story of Malala Yousafzai, a young girl who was gunned down for attending school. She has recovered and continues her crusade to bring education to children everywhere, regardless of gender.

This is someone who could be a victim. Born a girl in a poverty stricken region, oppressed by the Taliban, the deck was stacked against Malala. But her father treated her with respect and gave her education, and in 2009 she was bold enough to speak out about her life. She chose to become a heroine, not a victim.

It would be easy to look at Malala and just say to ourselves, “what am I suffering? My suffering is nothing compared to hers.” But that’s not what I want you to take away from this story. Sure, very few of my readers are in fear of being gunned down in daylight. But that doesn’t mean the afflictions we suffer are any less real. Don’t try to minimize or ignore your sufferings: instead, face them squarely and make a choice: will you allow your circumstances to victimize you or ennoble you? Will you choose to be a victim or a heroine?