You are not in control

You are not in control

Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love

“Letting go, of course, is a scary enterprise for those of us who believe that the world revolves only because it has a handle on the top of it which we personally turn, and that if we were to drop this handle for even a moment, well- that would be the end of the universe. But try dropping it. Groceries. This is the message I’m getting. Sit quietly for now and cease your relentless participation. Watch what happens. …. Why don’t you let it be?”


Many years ago, my father decided to chop down a tree in our yard. It was a tall, mature tree. As he was cutting the trunk, he became aware that his plan was going awry, and that the tree was going to fall on the power lines if he continued. Losing his cool, he bellowed for my mom at the top of his voice.

“Get out here, I need help!” My mother rushed out and was greeted abruptly: “Here, hold this tree!” as my father rushed inside to call the power company. My mother dutifully threw her arms around this fully grown tree, with a trunk so wide her arms didn’t completely encircle it.

She stood there for a moment, arms locked in the tree embrace, as her mind asserted itself. She realized quite clearly that she was not, in fact, “holding” the tree. She let her arms drop and carefully went inside.

I see myself and others doing this all the time. We walk around, arms wrapped around giant trees, staggering under the weight of what we are carrying and what we are attempting to carry, convinced that if we let go, trees will crash down and destroy power lines. But the truth is, we aren’t holding those trees. We are not in control of the universe.

This is a huge part of what I do as the voice of reason. I identify the trees you think you are holding, and I help you let them go. I point out the imaginary handle at the top of the world that you are turning, and give you permission to stop. Schedule a free consult with me today to find out if you’re holding any trees!

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